Building back better by learning from tough times
Is there any way we could build upon the traumatic experience of the global pandemic to reset personal and social norms that are more balanced, just and equitable? What if, instead of emerging from the crisis as merely more resilient, we committed to grow from adversity by finding ways to learn from what’s happened and focus on what matters most. While resilience usually involves staying the course with laudable courage, grit and determination, growth involves envisioning and charting a new and better course for the future. Let’s face it. The pre-pandemic world was hardly a bed of roses for vast swathes of the world’s population and, just as the pandemic accelerated trends already at work in areas such as advanced technology and automation, so it further exacerbated the loneliness and social and economic disparities already rife within our pre-COVID world.
So how do we cultivate growth through adversity? How do we, as individuals, create the better world our political leaders are fond of banging on about? Forget about large, grandiose gestures. Real, sustainable growth is cultivated by creating new habits of mind and behaviour- small, everyday actions that, when added together, can lead to a happier, more connected and more meaningful life over time. Try incorporating these five daily habits into your everyday routine and see how your own life will blossom.
Pause before judging people who are different from you.
One of the downsides of social media is that we either cocoon ourselves in filter bubbles that reinforce our own unchallenged world view, or we find ourselves manipulated into adopting extremist positions by shock-jock rabble rousers. Rather than a knee-jerk dismissal of people whose opinions or actions you disagree with, try to be curious about their stories and discover ways in which their experiences might not be so different from your own.Don’t be afraid to ask more questions.
We’ve often been told that empathy involves imagining how you’d feel in someone else’s shoes. Although well intentioned, this approach often leads us astray when we wrongly imagine that their reactions would look like ours. Instead of imagining our way to empathy, try asking people directly what they’re going through.Build kindness into your routine.
Each day or week, make sure to spend either time, energy or possibly a little money on somebody else. It could be something as simple as buying a person coffee or helping them with an errand or simply just listening.Harness technology for good.
The affordances of modern technology mean that we can easily get in touch with people anywhere in the world. Try reaching out to a friend or family member whom you know is struggling. Check in and see how they’re doing.Remember that kindness starts at home.
When you yourself are struggling, don’t be afraid to show yourself some self-compassion, and consider opening up to someone you trust. Showing vulnerability often feels difficult, but it can also be an opportunity to connect with others over shared anxieties in difficult times.
Are you ready for what’s next?
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About Frances
Frances is a best-selling author, broadcaster and an acknowledged expert in the business of cross-cultural communication.